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The heart is a strange and mysterious thing. It fills us with emotions that can take you from the heights of ecstasy to the depths of despair in the blink of an eye. What I want to talk about today is how we deal with a new love. I mean, when do you let someone inside your heart and tell them that you love them?

Once you’ve been hurt by love, you tend to steel your heart by building a wall around it so that you are afforded some immunity to the advances of those who would make you a part of their life. I’ve said this before, but I agree with something my sister stated recently. She said, “It’s impossible to love fully and to protect one’s heart at the same time. Sometimes this stinks, but to never give love a chance would stink even more!”

So, what happens when someone walks right through your carefully constructed fortress of solitude? Do you call out the troops and send them packing, because you aren’t ready for love? Do you embrace the offer of love? Or do you accept that you have an admirer and simply take it day by day to see where it goes?

These are good questions and should be considered for the sake of your safety and sanity. Everyone needs the love of someone special. Hell, in the absence of Mr. Right, so many times we end up settling for Mr. Right Now. Unless you just don’t like your admirer or the spark just isn’t there, calling out the troops serves no purpose. So, what about the other two options?

Embracing the offer of love, while certainly expedient, is really a bad idea unless you’ve known your admirer for many many years and already have an established relationship.  In that case, you’ll have a really good idea if the relationship will even work. That leaves us with the option of taking things one day at a time.

Hrm… taking things one day at a time… this works in so many situations and in conjunction with wise decision making skills and having the support of wonderful friends is absolutely the best approach to engaging in a new relationship.

For example, I was approached by a man looking for a serious relationship. While flattering, there is no way in hell I was going to go weak in the knees and run off to Vegas with him. (For the record, he did not ask me to do anything like that, nor has he asked me for sex).  As discussed, embracing love can be dangerous especially when you don’t know someone. To be honest, I think he’s extremely HOT, very polite, and worth getting to know. Sending him packing would be the safe thing to do, but I have no reason to do that since I do like what I’ve seen and heard so far.

So, taking things one day at a time is the proper answer here. My new boyfriend has said some wonderful things and everything I’ve discovered about him is amazing. Given a perfect world I would say I have found Mr. Right, but I will take things slow and make absolutely sure that we are afforded the time to really get to know each other before I allow myself the luxury of dropping my guard too far.

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